Sis. Jacquelyn Brady taught the lesson from a General Conference talk by Elder W. Craig Zwick What are You Thinking? Elder Zwick shares the story of when he and his wife and infant son were in an 18-wheel semitruck taking a heavy load down a steep highway. The cab of the truck suddenly filled with thick smoke and Elder Zwick did all he could to quickly stop the truck. Before the truck came to a stop, however, his wife opened the door to the cab and jumped out with the baby in her arms. As soon as Elder Zwick got to his wife and son, he blurted out, "What in the world were you thinking? Do you know how dangerous that was? You could have been killed!" Elder Zwick's wife answered that, "I was just trying to save our son." She thought that the engine was on fire and was trying to get out before the truck exploded. Elder Zwick knew the problem was an electrical failure that was hazardous, but not fatal.
Elder Zwick states, "When our truck cab filled with smoke, my wife acted in the bravest manner she could imagine to protect our son I too acted as a protector when I questioned her choice. Shockingly, it did not matter who was more right. What mattered was listening to each other and understanding the other's perspective."
Ephesians 4:29 - "Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good and edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers." Sis. Brady pointed out that the 3 things communication should always be is good, edifying and contain grace.
Listening also is a big part of communication. Sis. Brady shared some important points from the recent Stake Women's Conference. Stephen R. Covey said, "Seek first to understand, then to be understood...To feel understood is the deepest psychological need...Understanding comes through listening...Most people listen with the intent to respond instead of listening with the intent to understand."
As we work hard to communicate better with others, we must always remember the role the Holy Ghost can play. The Spirit will help us to transform "corrupt communication" into "ministering grace." Elder Zwick teaches us that 'it may not change or solve the problem, but the more important possibility may be whether ministering grace could change us."